I’ve said some pretty stupid and hurtful things when I’ve been emotionally triggered. And once words were spoken, they were awfully hard to put back in the box. I wonder what set off Miriam, Moses’ sister?
Miriam and Aaron began to talk against Moses because of his Cushite wife, for he had married a Cushite. “Has the LORD spoken only through Moses?” they asked. “Hasn’t he also spoken through us?” (Numbers 12:1-2a NIV).
We only meet Moses’ first wife Zipporah a couple times in the Scriptures and then nothing during the wilderness march. Does Moses take a second wife or is Zipporah now dead? We don’t know.
Do you suppose the Cushite wife made a comment over dinner preparations one day to her in-laws about how privileged and great her husband was? And Miriam and Aaron got jealous or defensive? After all, had God not used them (especially Aaron) in a mighty way in Egypt as the front-man speaker to Pharaoh? And hadn’t Miriam felt some ownership in caring for her baby brother when he was placed in the Nile? By association, she was the privileged one, in the inner circle. Who was this Cushite woman who was horning her way into the family business? Why can’t I speak against my own brother? she thinks. Who does he think he is? I’m a part of this team, aren’t I? Did Miriam feel left out?
In any case, this interesting phrase follows: And the LORD heard this. As a parent, I could listen to my children squabbling in another room and not say or do anything. But when the altercation brought one of them to tears or one was teased or hurt or put down, I tried to intervene and mete out justice or punishment to the offender and comfort to the wounded.
Whatever was going on in this family, it got God’s attention, and He came to Moses’ defense. “Suddenly” (without warning, in the midst of their conversation), says the Scripture, God speaks to the three of them: Come to the tent of meeting.
Uh-oh. Someone’s in trouble. The parent steps in to take control. Only there’s no questioning here about who said what or who’s to blame. He knows! The cloud pillar comes down to the door, and there’s no escaping this confrontation.
“Aaron and Miriam—step forward,” God commands. It’s a lineup of guilty parties. “Step out of the lineup, you two.”
Hear My words. (Words had been spoken by the created. Now words are to be spoken by the Creator.) When there is a prophet among you, I, the LORD, reveal myself to them in visions, I speak to them in dreams. But this is not true of my servant Moses; he is faithful in all my house. With him I speak face to face, clearly and not in riddles; he sees the form of the LORD. Why then were you not afraid to speak against my servant Moses?
And instantly Miriam becomes leprous. But why only her? Why not Aaron as well? Had God “spoken by Aaron”? Well yes, He had. But He had never (at least in the recorded word) spoken by Miriam. So perhaps Aaron’s part in the guilt was in not defending his brother?
I’m intrigued with Moses’ reaction. Instead of revengeful thoughts (Ha! Miriam deserved it! She’s getting what she asked for—she had no right to say what she did), he flies to her aid. He pleads with God to restore her. Why?
And Aaron who had just reviled his brother cries out: O, my lord, I plead with you; lay not the sin upon us. (Us? He’s not the one being punished, but he was in the lineup. He drove the getaway car—a co-conspirator.) We have done foolishly. (He recognizes his/their guilt. The God of the Universe has exposed his heart.)
And God listens to Moses and agrees to remove Miriam’s leprosy—after seven days outside the camp.
We live with the consequences of our indiscretions.
But Miriam’s response? Nothing. Nada. Silence. Don’t you know Miriam never made that mistake again? What a painful life lesson to learn:
Keep your mouth shut when you’re triggered!
Good advice, and, oh so hard to do!
Hard when you’re triggered, yes. But easy once the truth comes in and healing takes place. I’ve learned it’s easier to take prevention than to do mop-up afterward! If I’m feeling any negative emotion, I’ve learned to check in with my heart before sending a letter or email or text. I stop and process what I’m feeling before I hit the send button. The tone of the message invariably changes as a result. My bigger challenge is when I’m talking to someone in person. Harder to filter the tongue in the moment.
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I agree, so hard when you’re triggered. She might even have been right, but sometimes it’s better to not say even the “right” thing and keep one’s thoughts to oneself. But it’s interesting that she went after the wife first. She sort of gets lost in the rest, doesn’t she? Zipporah was Moses’ choice to make and not hers to judge. Maybe that was part of the issue. Maybe Miriam was punished because of what she DIDN’T say, but was in her heart, because God didn’t punish Aaron. And she never pleads her own case or asks for mercy, but her brothers do. There’s a lot not said in this story. I’m always intrigued by what the Bible doesn’t say, as much as what it does.