From My 2009 Journal. I was in a bathroom stall at the Orlando airport on my way home from my mom’s memorial service when I had an epiphany.
The hook on the back of the door was missing, and my first thought was, How annoying! Where am I supposed to hang my purse?
Now, I didn’t want to be a complainer about insignificant occurrences in my life—a hook on a door compared to death and dying . . . a little thing like that should not have controlled my emotions!
And so I started searching for the right word—because “annoying” or “frustrating” or “irritating” were really too strong to describe what I was actually feeling inside. I wanted a neutral word. That’s when I thought of “inconvenient.”
The circumstance is inconvenient.
How I feel about the circumstance may be annoying, frustrating, irritating.
And so, with the change in vocabulary, there was a shift in my attitude. I would call it what it was and acknowledge that the circumstance was less than ideal, but I didn’t have to have a negative response to it.
What has helped you to “call it what it is”?
Good one! I will need to think this one over and get back to you!
I really need to learn this! the circumstance is inconvenience. I may feel annoyance, frustration, irritation. Also, I’m learning that the feelings may come unbidden, initially. But I choose what feelings I let linger.
I like the way you said that…not letting the emotions linger. Some emotions are easier to let go of than others.
That’s so true, Karen, and recognizing that is the first step toward letting them go.
Great clarification! Thank you. Anna
Following Jesus into Life …
I think when you call it what it is, it gives clarity and I find I’m calmer and it doesn’t matter. Why do I get upset because a think isn’t where it’s supposed to be (like your door hanger)? Probably because it messes up my nice orderly world. But maybe I need to learn to live in a disorderly world and be okay with that.