The Scene: I am inside my house, facing our big picture window while a friend stands outside facing me. We each have Windex and some paper towels in hand. I wash my side. She washes hers.
The Need: A clean window
The Conflict: I can see her dirt; she can see mine. We can’t see our own.
The Cause: The light shines through differently from each of our perspectives.
The Solution: Trust. Trust the other person to point out the spots I missed. Keep rubbing till she nods her approval.
The Lesson: That’s what friends are for. A trusted friend is invaluable for pointing out my dirt. My job is to respond in gratitude for helping me get my soul-window clean—not to get angry that she pointed out my dirt.